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Aside from that, I struggled when people who literally dropped their kids off at grandparents' homes most evenings and every weekend would complain about how busy and tired they were from parenting. At other times, I would compare myself unfavorably to others, asking why they had things together and I didn't, ignoring the fact that those people had extensive family help with their kids. That's a waste of energy.
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OP. Yeah, we know a few people like this, unfortunately. And aside from them, we know a lot of people who'd just had the ability to do an overnight trip as a couple while having young kids and aren't obnoxious about it, but it's still hard to not feel like, man that must be nice. And then there are responses to this thread and others like it that suggest just going away without your kids as if that's an option that everyone has. https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/30/1147024.page

I tried to make it clear in my OP that I am grateful that my parents & ILs are here and are loving grandparents, but I do appreciate the helpful posts on keeping perspective and practicing gratitude for what we have instead of comparing ourselves to others.

And yes, as one PP helpfully pointed out - having my first (and probably only) child at 40 wasn't my first choice, but it's how things worked out. Grateful to be able to be a parent at all, because at our low point after failed IVF cycles and miscarriages, we weren't sure if we were going to be able to get there.[/quote]

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