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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just curious -Why does your mom have to fly in? If your husband was leaving for nine days, would you have to fly in a grandparent? [/quote]

Not OP, you don't sound curious, you come across as judgemental. I like having help and company when DH is away. I could survive without it, but it's  nice to have the extra set of hands. [/quote]

Oh my bad.  I meant to CLEARLY come across as judgmental because I can’t stand helpless dad syndrome and am just curious why he can’t handle one child for slightly over a week.  I seem to notice frequently that when women travel, it’s a big production and a grandparent has to be for them. But when men travel it’s literally no big deal.   The whole post is pathetic. OP has an important work trip and she’s second-guessing whether or not she should be able to take it.  If her spouse had an important work trip, do you think he would be hand wringing about it on DCUM and flying in grandma? No. He would just take the trip.  OP, your career is as important as that of your spouse, and your spouse is just as capable of taking care of his child as you are.[/quote]

You’re a jerk but more importantly, you’ve completely missed the point of OP’s post. She isn’t concerned about her husband’s ability to care for her daughter. Her entire concern centers around her daughter’s emotional wellbeing simply because of her absence. As a feminist I share your rage at pathetic dads but that’s absolutely not the point of OP’s post. Do you find it impossible to believe that some women don’t want to leave their collagen just because they are concerned about the emotional distress it will cause them?

Because I relate 100% to this concern. I have a 2 year old I have never left because she is extremely attached to me. This is despite my husband waking up with her at 5 am and taking care of her alone for hours every morning, sharing overnight wake ups, and generally being an amazing, present parent pulling more than his weight. My daughter is still totally obsessed with me and greatly prefers me over my husband because biology. It happens.[/quote]

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