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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well, at least you know what she wants.

My anti-vax aunt came down with Covid last year, and insisted she did not want to consult a doctor or go to the hospital. She died in her sleep several days into her Covid illness. My mother felt a lot of resentful against my aunt's husband, who did not call an ambulance. On the other hand my aunt was adamant.

You might have some hard decisions in the future, OP. Ask her every now and then, just to check she hasn't changed her mind.[/quote]

Your mother can feel whatever she wants, but I certainly hope she didn't say anything to your uncle. Your aunt made her wishes known and they were respected. Assuming she isn't seriously mentally ill of cognitively impaired her wishes should be respected.

Have you seen what the end looks like for many? It's a pretty awful tortuous ordeal. May we all be so fortunate as to pass in our sleep when the time comes. [/quote]

Yeah, except that there's history there. My aunt and her husband were estranged (because he's gay), and she only came to his house to nurse HIM through HIS covid bout, and then caught it herself and died. Then at the funeral, which I did not attend because all this happened in a European country and I live here in the States, apparently he had some not very nice words to say about his deceased wife.

So. My mother thinks he just let her die conveniently because he couldn't wait to get rid of her. 
I'm not interfering in any way. There's just a lot to unpack there and I know it's hard on my mother.[/quote]

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