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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you give a gift in person, a verbal thank you (with no additional written thank you note) is entirely appropriate. [/quote]

No.  It isn't.  [/quote]

https://emilypost.com/advice/different-ways-to-say-thank-you

Just because you repeat your answer does not make it true [/quote]

This is formal etiquette.  Appropriate for family, less close friends and acquaintances.  Also, the more formal the occasion (like weddings or milestone birthdays) the more important.

For closer friends and less formal occasions, you can dispense with ordinary etiquette.  It's a measure of your closeness that you don't need to observe formal etiquette, so with friends.

If you look in your link, even Emily Post says:

[quote]The general rule is: If you open a gift in the presence of the giver, then your verbal thanks are sufficient. For example, when you receive a hostess gift, or a holiday/birthday gift from a good friend or relative and you open it and express your sincere thanks personally, then a follow-up thank-you is optional. If the giver wasn't present, then a phone call is fine. Email is great when you just need to say a simple thanks quickly.[/quote]

PP has extended "opening the gift in the presence of the giver" to "giving a gift in person".  While you may consider that the child (recipient) was not present, in fact, OP is giving her gift to the friend because she doesn't really know the child.

So, there are circumstances where PP is right and circumstances where you (immediate PP) are right.  It depends on the situation.[/quote]

I forgot to add that in this case, I would consider the verbal thank you sufficient.  I am not a big stickler on etiquette for friends.  Any friend close enough that I am attending their or their child's birthday party, I am happy to be included (and when my child is included), so I don't worry about the etiquette as long as they show their appreciation in some way.[/quote]

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