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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My friend's husband just told her a few weeks ago that they're separating and divorcing. They had been in couples therapy for a few weeks but now he's done.[b] She had been a drag the last year and the spark died. [/b]She's a "feeling" person so when her Dad passed away and she dealt with her Mom, she looked to her husband for support. I warned her that he's really successful and busy and for her lifestyle she has to figure out how to manage without burdening him. She said he had told her that he just didn't have the bandwidth for this, particularly as she has a therapist and meds plus plenty of time as a SAHM to deal with those things.

Unfortunately she didn't listen to me and he started looking around. Turns out the husband met someone else he feels is a better fit for his lifestyle, and if it proceeds would be a fun stepmom for their two boys. Now my friend is trying to grind through each day while DH has moved on. I really want to tell my friend that for her own good she shouldn't play the victim, don't go bashing him and go along with telling people that it was mutual. Take the high road. You can love your husband and love your kids, but ultimately you need to maintain your worth and not go draining people if you want to maintain your lifestyle. How do I explain that to her, give her the tough love, without just damaging her more?[/quote]
The spark died in A YEAR and he’s filing for divorce? With minor children? I’ll take Things That Did Not Happen for $1,000, Alex.[/quote]

For the last year. Since her dad died. [/quote]
This doesn’t make the story any less fantastical. OP is bored and making up imaginary women to scold.

“Go along with telling everyone it’s mutual”? Lol! Obvious incel is obvious.[/quote]

Possibly OP twisted story enough to keep it anonymous or made up a story to match her query. Either way, it's probably something is weighing on her mind and she/he/they wanted public opinion about it.[/quote]

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