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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My 12yo DS is at camp with some new kids who are older than him. They were telling jokes and asked him to share one too. Unfortunately the one he shared is very insensitive and anti-semetic. We are a Christian family with a lot of Jewish friends and he didn’t really understand the joke or why it’s so inappropriate and hurtful. When I asked him about it he said that he heard it from one of our Jewish friends, and that’s why he thought it was ok to repeat it. 
Anyway it was not ok and I’m disappointed with him. But also the kids he told shared it with other kids. One of them was offended and hit my son a few times. The other kid is a bully always and it’s not the first time he’s been physical with my son, and others. 
I know about all of this because the camp counselor called me this afternoon. Because the other kid, who’s older and bigger, already has a few demerits he’s been suspended. So now everyone is talking about it but also about my son and the joke he shared. 
I don’t even know where to start with this. [b]Do I call and apologize to the parents of the bully, because we offended their religion which is not acceptable to me or my family. Do I have my son call and apologize.[/b] [b]Should I expect them to be apologetic to us since their son hit my son again[/b]..do I try to address this with other Jewish families at camp…please help [/quote]

K. Apologies that are fishing for apologies don't count. Just focus on your kid and what he did. Because the way you tell this it's almost like you are looking for an out. "Yes, I know my son shouldn't have been an anti-Semite, but doesn't the fact that the Jewish kid hit him excuse my son just a little bit?"

Personally, I would reach out to the camp director. Let them know that you are embarrassed by your child's behavior, and he is embarrassed and remorseful. Ask them if they have plans to handle it. If everyone is talking about it I would think that the director might get both boys together to apologize to each other, and then send a note out to the community letting everyone know ("Someone told an unacceptable joke and a child responded with aggression. Both children and their families have been spoken to and all understand how their own behavior was inappropriate and not accepted at camp Laratown. Please reach out to the director if you have any questions.")  But, IDK what your kid said, or what the story is with the other kid, so the director may go a different direction. If it's a good camp, hopefully they will be able to handle it professionally. 
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