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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Dealing with this now with my mom. In a span of 5 months, she sold the family home, moved to CCLC assisted living/nursing care then recovered enough to move to independent living. Now she’s in the hospital and will be released to assisted living for 30 days.

I’m supposed to help move her from the hospital back to Asst Living and I have used up all of my Family Medical Leave used to care for her prior to her first move. I had to tell my sibling that I can’t help.

Also, I’m enacting tough love. My mother refuses to take her prescription medicines (how she ended up in the hospital). This cycle of back and forth to the hospital has been ongoing for too long. I’m done.

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This is the million dollar question: we can accept that elderly people of their right mind can make their own choices, even if they are terrible choices.  But when those terrible choices are made - against the advice of professionals and their children - what happens to the moral obligation of the child?  It is completely unreasonable for our parents to expect us to drop everything and rescue them from their bad choices, just to repeat the cycle.[/quote]

I have been thinking about this a lot myself as I deal with my own mother. At what point is the health of the caregivers taken into consideration?  At what point are our parent's decisions still considered "sound". Some cases are cut and dry but others - like my mom - is very good at pulling the wool over medical professional's eyes. And so the cycle continues. Meanwhile, every time the phone rings, or when I think I can actually get out of town for a long weekend - I find myself back in the hospital with her. The only thing I can really do is vow I won't do this for my kids. [/quote]

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