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[quote=Anonymous]It sounds like you mostly want commiseration that your mom won’t listen to you OP. And that’s fine. But I think your happiness will improve if you move toward just accepting the situation. There is no benefit to fretting about how things should be and wallowing in disappointment that your mom isn’t different than who she is. As people age many revert to stubborn refusal to see reality, kind of like a small child. Circle of life. You might end up that way too when you’re old. It just is what it is in a highly mobile society where kids leave the nest and multigenerational living isn’t common. Don’t deny reality, like your mom. Just accept it. What should you *actually* do about this? Ask her if she’s open to suggestions of ways she could prepare for a good next stage of life. Presumably she’ll say no thanks. You keep saving money in a rainy day fund for the day when you’ll need to drop everything and help her through an emergency. It’s going to happen. Your husband may even have to make sacrifices because of this. Better to be prepared. The day might come when you have enough evidence to go before a judge and become her legal guardian. Then you can unilaterally do whatever you think is best for her. Until that day, you can only let her make her own decisions. [/quote]

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