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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]All of you who are saying that OP's child is just a "normal kid" who is behaving badly are doing her a real disservice.  First of all, this child has been diagnosed -- TWICE by two different professionals -- as having an ASD.  Presumably they had more to go by than just a paragraph on a message board, not to mention professional expertise.  I am assuming that you don't have a child on the spectrum yourself because you don't recognize the rigidity and special interests.

And the reason you are doing OP a disservice is that you are feeding her denial.  Read her post again.  She has a diagnosis -- TWO, by TWO professionals -- and yet she is looking for ways to find something else going on, some other "condition" that would explain her child.  And you are serving it up to her, because you think you know more than the professionals who have presumably done a full evaluation.

OP, ignore the posters who don't know what they are talking about and go back to to one of the professionals who diagnosed your child and ask him or her where to go from here.[/quote]

No one is saying this is "just a normal kid" who is behaving badly.  What we are saying is that THIS is bad behavior.  Even kids with ADHD behave badly.  Don't confuse the symptoms of ADHD with just plain bad behavior.  You still need to parent a special needs kid.  You still need to discipline a special needs kid.  She's treating this kid as if everything he does should be attributed to a disorder.  Preposterous.[/quote]

I'm the PP you are responding to and I previously wrote in this thread that OP should seek professional help for behavior modification because the behavior is unacceptable.  As I said, its a challenge when you have a child with a developmental disorder but we don't do them any favors by accommodating their behaviors.

But there are posters saying that this is a "normal kid," thats a direct quote.  And they are saying his behavior is the result of bad parenting.  So it just isn't true that "no one is saying" these things.  I think you and I agree.  It can be more of a challenge to control these behaviors when you have a child on the spectrum but you have to try.  And those of us with children on the spectrum have suffered through the judgment of others who attribute our kids' behavior to bad parenting which is why I reacted so strongly to the posters who were saying that.

And for the parent who says that you need to respond to OCD with discipline -- YIKES.  OCD is a psychiatric disorder in which the person engages in ritualized behaviors in response to intrusive thoughts.  You have to treat the condition, not try to punish the behaviors.  You may be able to control the behavior some through discipline but you will cause real suffering in the process because the intrusive thoughts won't go away without treatment.[/quote]

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