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[quote=Anonymous]Do [b]not[/b] lie about it.  You'll have to ask your kids to lie, which isn't a good thing.  Beside teaching them to lie, you're teaching them how to treat you when you get old.  It will be incredibly difficult to keep this secret (kids, especially) and your parents will be very hurt that you lied and excluded them.  (Check the thread about 'family excluding you from vacation' or something like that on this site.)

Have an honest conversation now because their situation isn't going to change and will continue to deteriorate.  Tell them you plan to go to Disney and what (extremely busy) activities you're planning on.  If they ask to come, be clear that you will be focused on the kids and may not be able to help them all the time.  If they insist, plan a few things they're capable of and then go your own way.  If they complain, tell them you're sorry, but you can't bring kids to Disney and then expect them to do minimal activities.  Be clear that you're concerned about their well-being.  And if they say they can just rent scooters or keep up, let it happen and don't fix it for them.

I know this sounds harsh, but stick with it because you're working on future behavior.  Nothing will magically change unless something tragic happens or you change your behavior.

And if all this sounds undoable, maybe choose a different vacation like a resort that has activities at various levels and meet up every day for breakfast/late afternoon swim/dinner.

Good luck, OP.  Life transitions aren't always easy even when they're for the best.[/quote]

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