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[quote=Anonymous]It's going to depend on the size of the house, the WFH set up, individual personalities, and the job.

I'm not a SAHM but I do work PT in a fully remote role and have been the primary parent for a while. And DH used to work full time in the office, but then was full time remote for 2 years and is now hybrid with 2 days at home. We have a small home without a great office set up -- remote work largely happens in common areas, though there is some capacity for privacy in our bedroom if needed for calls, but we both use it so you can't count on it all the time.

I acknowledge that having DH home more is good for his relationship with our kids and has taken some of the pressure off me since he now does drop-off and pick-up two days a week when he was never able to before (though on days he does pick up, he then goes back to work and I am the on-duty parent until he's done).

He also does help around the house on his remote days, though this is a bit of a wash because he also makes more messes when he is home -- I don't think I really gain anything from that in the long run, and it might even be a net negative because I've noticed that just basic wear and tear on our home is so much higher with him working from home. Literally our floors look more worn out and our furniture has gotten a lot more use. We go through toilet paper, light bulbs, and food more quickly.

In terms of my general happiness, I will admit to missing some of my solitude. I have struggled to adjust to a work environment where I'm not alone -- it was something I'd really acclimated to and having him around, listening to him on the phone or sometimes having him in my space when I'm trying to focus, has been disruptive. I think he knows this on some level, but obviously he likes the remote work and I don't blame him. But it has been harder for me.

It also feels kind of chaotic on days when the kids are off school and he's still working remotely. My work is flexible so I've always taken those days off and put effort into making those days fun and meaningful with the kids. It can be awkward when I'm trying to set up a fun day and DH is trying to work, and a part of me thinks "you should have just gone to the office today." But I recently suggested that he perhaps choose some of these days to take off and be the point person with the kids, and I will work those days instead. He seems amenable. It might at least make him less likely to shush the kids or get annoyed with the noise we make leaving the house for a picnic or museum outing while he's trying to take calls. It's ridiculous when he does that and I don't think he yet understands why.

I'm also trying to convince him to move to a bigger home in a LCOL area but he doesn't want a longer commute on his in-office days.

Can you tell I'm annoyed but trying to make it work? I'm annoyed but trying to make it work.[/quote]

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