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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, sorry you find yourself at this juncture.  It's so hard, and one that too many families are at.  How old are your parents?  A hospital social worker or nurse navigator can help explore options.  They may also be better at explaining to your parents the risks and benefits of the choices in front of them.  Your parents may listen and hear better from someone who is not their child.  Rest assured that this will not be the first time these social workers have dealt with this elder care situation.   You may need to have a meeting with your parents and a social worker where your own needs are explaining, your own need to work.  Meanwhile, do what you can to take of yourself.  At this point, you are your parents support structure.  Taking care of yourself is not selfish.  Taking care of yourself is also taking care of them.   Caregiver burn out is real and detrimental.  It can be very difficult to bounce back from.  I know that this is easier said than done.  Elder care forces us to burn the candle at both ends and then come up with a third and fourth end.  [b]I think there is so little awareness of the lack of publicly-funded eldercare.  So many people believe that Medicare or Medicaid will pay for in home care or assisted living.  When people don't have that kind of money, and there's no one to provide daily support, then what? [/b] It's a crisis, and it's not just you.  Really rooting for you, OP.  Please let us know how things progress.  [/quote]

Yes. People talk about "donut-hole families" with financial aid for college, and there's some truth to it, but with elder care there's this HUGE swath of families in between qualifying for Medicaid and just having enough money to be able to pay for as much care as you need. Like the majority of people.[/quote]

PP, can you please parse that a little more - what do you mean by "just having enough money to pay for as much care as you need"?

Thanks. [/quote]

Meaning having an actual spare $1 million lying around that you wouldn't miss that you can spend on however many years of nursing home/AL/home care you need. [/quote]

That doesn't sound like a donut hole....[/quote]

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