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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Get to the root of it - what is DC noticing that makes him feel that way and what can you do with your mom to address that?  If it can't be fixed then at least validate DC's feelings and find ways to explain that will ease the sting[/quote]

This. Telling an 8-year-old that Grandma likes Mikey better is its own special form of abuse. It almost comes off as manipulative--hey, join me in hating on Grandma. An 8-year-old can't process this, they can't put it into perspective without taking the dislike onto themselves.

It's not gaslighting to defer this while you try to work on Grandma. Ask DC what bothers them specifically, and take that back to Grandma. We went on a family vacation when DD was 12 and MIL gave her a dress, and 3-4 dresses to her other grandchild their cousin. Yeah, it was her daughter's child and she was present at the birth, but still there's no excuse for this. I sent DH straight to him mom to point this out. It never happened again.

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* and it wasn't even the cousin's birthday[/quote]

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