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[quote=Anonymous]My parents were constantly sarcastic and dismissive to me when I was growing up. If I said "my stomach hurts" they'd respond with something like "oh does it? wow, sucks for you."

I became a very sarcastic, dismissive adult, then quickly discovered that's sort of a miserable personality, went to therapy, and became someone who rarely uses sarcasm and even then never in a dismissive way, and is a much more direct but also loving person than I was as a teenager and in my early 20s.

But even now, if I'm talking to my parents and they say something that annoys me or that I disagree with, I will still sometimes respond in the brattiest, most sarcastic, teenage way. Anyone else, I'd be able to control it. My parents, and especially my dad? It's so hard. Those patterns are SO engrained in our relationship.

It's something I think about with my own child all the time. She will speak to me the way I speak to her. I am kind, polite, respectful, and understanding with her.[/quote]

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