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[quote=Anonymous]Have you read Tony Attwood’s book? He suggests 3 things:
1- DH has to be diagnosed and accept diagnosis
2- Everyone has to be open and willing to learn 
3- Therapy, both individual and couples

I will add a couple other things that help me tremendously:
*spending time with my tight-knit group of girlfriends who enjoy engaging in deep, meaningful conversation and know me inside and out (I often feel misunderstood by DH)
*household help - landscaping, cleaning ladies, regular help with evening childcare (DH leaves most executive tasks to me - planning, organizing, doing most household and parenting tasks. Without regular help
I can count on, I get really resentful.)

My DH also had to learn how to manage anxiety appropriately after decades of using maladaptive coping skills.

If my ASD son chooses to get married and have a family, I will openly discuss these tips with him and his partner. Hopefully they can avoid some of hurtful and traumatic experiences I’ve been through with my DH who didn’t receive a diagnosis or any support until he was 50. My son already has an enormous advantage - diagnosis and a top notch support team - in childhood. [/quote]

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