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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s not fair that she inherits the house if you have other children. It needs to be divided up equally. 
If she has an AA she is capable. You need to find a way to push her out of the nest or she will never fly. Hopefully a therapist can help? Or a life coach? [/quote]

[b]Our other adult children are in their 40s with lucrative careers, homes and families.  They truly don’t need our modest home.[/b]

Our youngest daughters situation is different than her older half-siblings. I want her to get out and find a job and gain some independence.  But she truly may not be capable of total financial independence the way they are, for the reasons I disclosed above.

I know plenty of people are highly successful with chronic illnesses and disabilities but that may not be DDs reality. [/quote]

Okay, but do you think they need a dependent adult to manage, in addition to their other responsibilities? Do not think you can just let her live there forever without an income and without anyone to help her manage. Especially as she and her siblings grow old. If they are older than she is, they can't take care of her forever. You owe it to your children and grandchildren, and your DD herself, to open your eyes and get her some help so that she can reach her potential to care for herself as much as possible.

Even if she won't get a job, you need to work with your DD on life skills. At least teach her to cook and keep a place clean. To take the bus safely. Have her volunteer so that at least she has that on her resume and is building people skills and could be recommended for a paid job. [/quote]

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