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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I posted before - thrilled with my two girls but would have been absolutely fine with two boys or one of each. I actually think it's worse for moms of multiple boys, no girls. Like it is sad they don't have a daughter. I have two girls so don't this comment but a lot of my friends do. Seems silly - I'm sure most moms are thrilled with their boys. I've also had girlfriends say to me they'd be sad if they didn't have a daughter...but I think that's easy to say in the abstract. Once you have a daughter of course you can't imagine not having her, but I'm sure you'd feel the same way about a son.

My husband is fine with two girls. He would have liked a boy but it's not a big deal to either of us. [/quote]

Just to clarify - by "it's worse" I mean the perception that a mom of two or more boys is sad. NOT that it is actually worse. I recently met a couple who have three (adorable) boys and I thought it was so cool. If I had multiple boys it would probably chill me out a bit![/quote]

Yes, there is this perception. (I'm the PP with 3 boys). During my 3rd pregnancy, I had strangers insist that I must be disappointed to be having a third boy. Um, no, sorry to disappoint YOU and your stereotypes. I have a friend who just had her third girl, and the comments she got were that *her husband* must be so disappointed. My hypothesis is that this is because a lot of people feel very invested in gender-segregated hobbies, entertainment, and activities, and feel that they won't get to do anything they enjoy with their opposite-sex child. We're not like that in my house. My husband does not watch sports or have any other stereotypically male hobbies; I don't get manicures or spend a lot of time shopping recreationally. We are both able to spend time with our children doing things that all of us enjoy. I am so happy and grateful to have three beautiful, healthy children. We are all missing out on something in this life by virtue of the fact that we cannot do and be everything. But true happiness is about being able to embrace the life you have.[/quote]

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