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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You can’t take people with Alzheimer’s behavior personally. They are no longer themselves. [/quote] [b]The problem is some people become the worst versions of themselves[/b]. I just read about this. [b]It's not always a personality change.[/b] [b]It can be that they no longer censor their true thoughts and the better qualities fade. That is what some of us deal with[/b]. We remember this behavior growing up, but there were so many good memories to ease the pain. [/quote] This describes my mom. She's always been emotionally dysregulated. I'm a calm person - she tells me something and I respond in my usual manner. She gets right in my face and starts to scream at me, "you're so cold, you're like your father, he is the one that made me crazy". When my father recently passed away, she told me he owed "a lot of money to X,Y,Z." I was the representative to his estate so I asked those people if he owned them money to pay them back once I told his cars, house, etc. They told me he didn't owe them anything. It's difficult to tell if she's being manipulative or it's truly cognitive decline. When she's with me, she tells me how much my sister and her husband love each other and that unlike my DC, my niece does not struggle with mental illness because their marriage is good. My sister has a difficult marriage. When she's with my sister, she tells her how well I have done in my career and that she doesn't worry about me because I'm financially comfortable and have a pension when I retire. Seems to like you need a lot of cognitive function to be that cruel and manipulative. It's a very difficult situation because I'm not convince my mom's personality is due to dementia although she does have dementia because she has a difficult time remembering names, whether she's paid a particular bill, and will repeat things over and over. [/quote]
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