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[quote=Anonymous]I'm about OP's age group.  Aging parents, kids are getting older, and marriage was "meh" but getting better.  The turning point was I got to my breaking point and couldn't live that way any longer.  I felt like a single parent and he only added his 2 cents when money was involved.  If my husband no longer wanted to be involved in our marriage, then I wanted to have the freedom of finding someone who did.

Asking for a divorce was a major wake up call for my DH.  I don't think he really knew how unhappy I was.  He asked me to give him a chance to work through things.  We both made lists of things we wanted each other to work on and we both made an effort to improve our marriage.  We aren't perfect, but the important thing is that we both began making more of an effort.  Carving time everyday to talk uninterrupted (at least 15 minutes helps), carving time for a date night at least twice a month, and sex on a regular basis also helped us to grow back together as a couple.

If my husband had not made an effort to work with me and improve things, I would have divorced him.  I was not just saying that to him for shock value.  I had already researched an attorney and laid out a plan on how to begin the process.

Don't settle for "meh".  Demand better or leave so you can find better.[/quote]

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