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[quote=Anonymous]OP, what you describe sounds worse than "meh." I don't buy the "stay for the children's sake" argument. Your children need happy parents. If they can't have two happy parents, one happy parent is better than none. I think you should consider separation and divorce.

First, if you are even thinking about divorce, get your ducks lined up. Speak to a lawyer, and think through the various possible issues. Money? Bank accounts? Debts? Would you move out? Ask him to move? Custody? Alimony/Palimony? Relocation?  Child support? Etc. Don't wait to think about this until after you tell him you want to separate.

If you can even begin to imagine ever feeling fond of him, ever, then give him a last chance: tell him (after doing the above) that you want to separate and probably divorce, but you are willing to give it a last chance if he will commit to going to counseling with you. f he agrees, give it an honest try. If he doesn't, end the marriage.

I was in your shoes five years ago... I got divorced and have NEVER regretted it for one single second. Our children (who live with me six days a week) are happy and secure, and ironically, seeing them only one day a week actually forced my ex to figure out, for the first time, how to be a parent. I think even he would admit that his relationship with the kids is much stronger no than it was before we split.[/quote]

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