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[quote=Anonymous]I don’t see anything in the comment you stated that seems critical of a decision to wait.  I don’t even think colleagues will automatically assume you plan to have any kids unless you’ve told them that specifically?

I didn’t start trying till 35 which I now know is risky from a fertility standpoint, (and I did have to do fertility treatments).  But I still don’t regret not starting sooner for my own personal reasons (career, education, right partner, life experiences, etc).  I have three kids which worked out well for my family, but I know some women who made similar decisions who ended up with one or none due to fertility issues and that was a big source of sadness for them.

For the op with active duty husband it makes a lot of sense to me if you can wait until he’s retired or semi retired so you will not be solo parenting and/or relocating often with a young kid.  A friend was deployed while his daughter was born and didn’t meet her for three months which is tough.  He’s high ranking but was gone a lot during Iraq and afghanistan and his wife had to end her career to manage childcare plus had good family support.  But I do think the 35 fertility drop off is worth keeping an eye in and meeting with an RE for initial testing on.  Good luck. [/quote]

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