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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Two things I take issue with in this premise:

1. People are “good” or “bad.”  No, OP.  People are people.  Even the nicest people sometimes do mean things in times of stress or just because they aren’t sensitive to someone else’s situation.  Mean people can be incredibly generous.  Ordinary people have mean habits and nice ones.

2. Parents are “good parents” or “bad parents.”  Again, no.  Some parents are good with one type of kid but bad with another.  Some parents are as good as they know how to be but it’s bad for the kids they have.  Sometimes the parents’ personalities and interests and approach to life is just oil and water to the kid, even though the parent is trying their hardest.  That can cause trauma/issues that wouldn’t necessarily look traumatic to an outsider.

About the specific example of queen bee lady who was loved and lucky all her life: this is what we call spoiled usually.  My armchair psychologist assessment would be that she gossips and such because she’s never experienced real hardship and lacks the imagination to understand it and consequently doesn’t understand how hurtful her actions are since she’s had such a charmed life.  Also since she has a strong and loving family circle, if/when her friends spread rumours about her it doesn’t really make a dent so again she fails to realize that others are more vulnerable.[/quote]
+1 to all of this.

Also, there is also something to the idea that people who don't really have any hardships in their lives don't necessarily have a lot of empathy for others.  [/quote]

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