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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  Thanks for your responses.

Basically I want to become good friends with the moms of my kid's friends.  I want us to meet up on our own sometimes but also do family hang outs on the weekends with the kids, BBQs, pizza nights, game nights, dinners out, etc.

I'm fine with drop off playdates and we definitely do those, but honestly I would prefer that playdates be non-drop off playdates where the mom stays, just like in the toddler and preschool years.  I loved those kind of playdates where I would have 2 hours to get to know another mom.  I want to get to know the other moms and become friends, but they don't really seem that interested, since we have never hung out just ladies only.

Yes, I am very lonely on the weekends.  With a spouse who works most weekends, no local family and no family friends, it's just me and my child hanging out together every weekend, or going to their sports, etc. and that gets lonely for me.  My kid doesn't want to spend that much time with just me--they would rather be hanging out with a friend, not just hanging out with me.  None of their friends does the same sports as they do or even lives anywhere close by so they don't go to the same swim class, etc., so that's not an option for them to spend time with friends through sports or weekend activities.

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If you are in the DMV area it will be tough.  So many people have their kids involved in weekend activities- especially sports or dance that it makes Saturday tough.  And lots of people set aside that time for family - they may have their parents  or in-laws in the area (Sunday dinners) or it’s time both parents have off from work so they don’t want to socialize with other families outside of organized activities.

Echo suggestions for PTA or being a co-leader in Girl Scout/Boy Scouts or volunteering as swim parent etc.  This might help with mom friends.  Family friends where kids all get along and everyone vacation together might be a higher bar  besides everyone needing to get along with their counterparts - kid friendships change a lot, couples don’t always stay together, and vacationing together is different from socializing for a few hours.  I’ve seen the family friends/vacation together start more from close neighborhood friendships.  But even with that as kids get older they probably prefer to be able to invite their best friends at the time to vacation with their family versus family vacation where parents are friends and they aren’t tight with the other kids.[/quote]

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