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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would love for some insight into this issue.  I have an only child (age 7) who has been invited to very few (like 2) playdates over the last three years of school.  We have invited her friends many times to our house or to meet up at parks, etc.  We never meet up with any of her friends unless I initiate and plan the playdate, their moms never reach out to us or invite us.  I believe this is because all her friends have either younger or older siblings.

When we meet up with her friends who have siblings, the mom always brings the sibling to the playdate, even if they're different gender and much older.  So for instance, last month we went to the zoo with her same aged friend and the friend's older brother, who was 12 and very bored and complaining the whole time. The mom even mentioned that Dad was home at that time, so I'm thinking why didn't she just leave him with Dad instead of bringing him to this outing when of course he would be bored?

The friends who have younger siblings always come to the playdates, even though the moms don't even ask if that's okay and it [b]annoys my child to have younger siblings trying to play with her and her friend when they want time together[/b].

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Maybe your daughters lack of social graces and kindness is why you are not being invited. I definitely would be less inclined to invite a child who couldn't play well with both of my kids, or expected to exclude one of them. It makes it more of a hassle for me, because it doesn't keep both my kids out of my hair. And it doesn't set an example of kindness and good social skills. I think your expectations are way out of whack here, OP. [/quote]

+1 I’d worry more about my kid being unable to get along vs trying to make the world more accommodating to my kid.

And I say this as an only child myself—you’re not doing your kid any favors by aggravating their only child syndrome. [/quote]

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