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OP,

Why did you have this notion of a true believer being more moral or ethical than someone else?

Your husband is human. He has human flaws. His desire to feel close to God and to have his children, whom he loves, follow his faith has nothing to do with his mistake of getting married to the wrong person in his 20s. A LOT of people make that mistake.

You need to move on, for your own mental health. You can change church. You can meet someone too, a better human (even if they might not be of your religious persuasion).

I have Catholic roots. My husband, an atheist, jokes that the only people who need religion are the weak ones who sin more. My opinion is that followers of a religious faith aren't better or worse than others.

Stop ruminating about this flawed individual. He is now merely the co-parent. Find happiness elsewhere.
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It's just not that easy. I married him and I truly believed in a lifetime of marriage. I believe that every marriage goes through valleys and trials. But that we are not to give into temptation, and that if we do, we stop, we confess our sin, we turn from the sin that ensnares us, and return to the Lord. That ultimately God delivers us from the sins that can destroy us. That's the moral and theological view we BOTH had - when we volunteered at VBS, when we lead a home bible study together. He never said he married the wrong person. He said he changed, and during the height of his affair, he said he was "probably never saved" and was going to hell anyway. This new person comes along and was a true sexual temptation. He was attracted to her. If she was 200 pounds and unattractive, he would not have ended our marriage to be "her person." He was deeply attracted to her and wanted to be with another woman. That's just sin. [/quote]

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