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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Previous posters are nuts. The second comment is a silly between married people comment that’s not remotely insulting and is clearly just a “hey nice boobs” comment - which honestly is the kind of thing that keeps marriages somewhat sexy beyond kid stage.

If you didn’t like it, tell him. But to call it abode, insulting or gaslighting is absolutely ridiculous.

I also don’t think the first one is a huge deal. Interrupting is rude, but not insulting. And you called him on it, so he got defensive (not unusual). He didn’t say you did something wrong, he said he was just kidding. I’d have mentioned it at the time that it wasn’t funny and you didn’t appreciate it. But beyond this; it sounds like you’re highly sensitive. I can’t imagine having a long go of marriage if stuff like this bothers you: [/quote]

You have missed, or chosen to ignore, the fact she says those two specific things are just examples. There seems to be a larger pattern of these kind of comments over time. That is extremely wearing at best and dismissive and insulting at worst. People are telling her it's time to deal with this pattern. A pattern, PP, not just two isolated incidents. Maybe you'd be delighted to be "complimented" about your boobs (or your d**k if you're a man) and told you need to sex things up for a work promotion--hilarious! But OP is not delighted, and there's nothing oversensitive about that, especially when similar comments go on and on. [/quote]

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