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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband uses the "joking" excuse for most of the things I consider insults.  Two examples:

While I talking to a neighbor about our gardens, he pops over and interrupts me (twice).  The second time I ask him to please don't interrupt.  He says he was just making my point more interesting as I was boring.  I left. He tells me later he was just joking.

Today, as I'm leaving for work, he tells me I would be able to actually get raise if would show a lot more cleavage.  I tell him I just got a raise a month ago with my brains. He says the raise would have been bigger if I was more "out there".  I tell him that was hurtful. He says he was just joking. He was actually "implying a compliment".

Then he tries to tell me I'm too sensitive.  Is this gaslighting?
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DARVO applies here. Classic DARVO.

Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim & Offender.

You told him she didn't like something he did and he denied that he was doing anything, insisted he was "just joking" ("just" anything is a red flag, as well, so keep that in mind), and then claims you are boring (Attack), and then he tells you that you are too sensitive, and basically it's your fault (Reverse Victim & Offender).

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