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[quote=Anonymous]OP didn’t specify what type of issues they are dealing with. So FWIW, here’s what my life looked like. I am not a single parent but spouse often traveled for work and due to medical issues of extended family members.

No matter how good you think your friends and neighbors are, it’s not very likely they will show up for a crisis. So it’s all on you. You make whatever decisions you have to in the moment and deal with the fallout later. If that means hospitalization without spouse’s consent or permission, you do it.

You find yourself making decisions that you never imagined. Like giving a young kid a cellphone even when you generally think that’s a bad idea. or letting your younger kids home alone because you had no options. If you’ve ever been in an ER overnight, you’ll understand that there are things far worse than an eight year old staying alone in the safety of their own home.

You take a self defense class so you learn how to restrain your violent kid and you make sure your phone is always charged and that everyone in the house has a phone and knows how to call 9-1-1. You make sure your local policing authority knows you and your situation.

You have an escape plan. Maybe you keep a car parked on the next street over and a set of keys in your yard. Maybe you keep a ladder in your bedroom so you can climb out the window. Whatever. Your house is filled with just things and there is no point at trying to keep things safe when it puts you and your other kids at risk.

You have a good set of professionals working with your child and you have a good IEP in place in hopes of avoiding crises. You make sure you have health insurance to pay for those crisis hospital visits. You spend the college fund on whatever isn’t covered by insurance.

As far as agreements. Honestly, to me, it’s a who cares issue. If I were in a crisis, I’d do what needed to be done, not what an agreement said to do.  [/quote]

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