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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In my opinion, you definitely can’t force kids to socialize- you can, however, force them to do an extracurricular or sport (of their choosing). In lieu of those, volunteer work or a part time job. Most of those options are social, even if it doesn’t lead to making close friends [/quote]

I was going to post more or less the same as PP and a few others. I think it's nice for kids who are on the quieter side to have a reason to get out of the house and have a social outlet, and that doesn't have to be a group of kids. Sitting in their rooms alone won't put them in a position to move out of their comfort zone. [/quote]

As someone who likes quiet and spends a lot of time at home, I think this is great advice. It’s easy for “restorative time at home” to slip into “too much time indoors alone” without someone noticing. And even those of us who like to be at home usually do feel refreshed after an outing and/or some contact with others. Of course, kids in schools are out and interacting all day, so that might not apply as much during the school year.

OP, I’ve decided that one of the best ways I can help my introverted kid is to subtly highlight the fact that she’s making choices and all of those choices come with positives and negatives. If you go out with people who aren’t your closest friends, you might find it tiring or even annoying. If you stay home, you won’t have that opportunity to make or deepen friendships and you might feel FOMO. There isn’t a right or wrong, but it helps to know what needs your feeling at the moment and which things you prioritize.

Any introverted teen (or adult!) in the social media age is going to slip into periods of feeling like everyone is hanging out but her, but I’m hoping that DD can at least counter it a little by knowing how her choices played in. If the resting time was a bigger priority, problem solved. If not, she can make a different choice next time. [/quote]

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