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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do not have kids with someone who isn’t on board. I have friends like this and it’s painful to see.[/quote]

Disagree. Have the kids. You are already old and not enough time to find new guy and get it done.

You may end up single mom, so it depends on which outcome sounds better — married to man child or single mom dating to find a new DH. I would go for kids. Having kids on your own is $$$$. As long as you don’t push child support he’ll give you custody, natch. [/quote]

DP. I hope this post above is meant to be sarcastic because if not, it's terrible advice to OP. "He'll give you custody, natch"? Based on, what, his saying now that he doesn't want kids? He could be pi$$ed enough at OP leaving him that he'll demand at least some custody., just to get at her, and then do a cruddy job of parenting while he has them, or will be so checked out he'll ignore them on his watch. And even if he doesn't want custody, OP still remains [i]yoked to him as long as they both live,[/i] through their kids. Unless she can guarantee 100 percent that he'll be her baby daddy then divorce her easily, pay ample child support, and move far, far away from her and their kids -- she is taking a huge risk with a plan to have kids then divorce and expect them to be all hers. He may decide that if he's paying child support he gets to butt in on how she wants to raise them, custody or not.

OP would do better to leave now, freeze her eggs if she is intent on having bio kids, have them with a donor and be a single mom, or open her mind to the idea that one does not have to have kids to be a whole person, or can adopt (an option DCUM never likes to discuss, ever). And yes, having kids on your own "is $$$$," PP, but having kids with a divorced coparent can be nightmare or at least a headache. Not sure his $$$$ is worth that. [/quote]

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