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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My advice is that OP focus on her own life and stop worrying about her friend’s life.  Or if she really feels so bad for her friend, maybe stepping in and helping out the uncle a little bit herself?[/quote]

OP here. My friend can handle herself. I admire how she’s dealing with this.

My post is more about how looking at her situation made me worried about what my brother might expect later in life. He currently depends heavily on our parents, especially my mom (he is late 40s, has lived with them off and on his entire life, has plenty of money but manages it poorly) and I could absolutely see him trying to lean on my kid for help, and having a similar personality to my friend’s uncle (demanding, rigid) that would make it even harder.

I know my friend’s situation is not my business. But it’s made me think about my own family and worry a bit about the future.[/quote]

Your brother isn’t your business either.  STOP judging.   [/quote]

Yes, my brother is my business. Your comment makes no sense.

The responses on here are like "yes of course you have an obligation to care for an aunt or uncle who has no one else, they are family" but also "how dare you pass judgment on your brother or question how his choices might have a negative impact on you or your child." Make it make sense.

If we have obligations to each other, as family, then my brother also has an obligation to his niece not to burden her with his care in old age. It can't just run one direction.[/quote]
Your daughter might suprise you and may one day actually want to help, if she is needed. I doubt she'll learn that selflessness from you, though.[/quote]

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