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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]what did you do differently?

My middle schooler's IQ was just tested, and came back on the border between these two categories, according to the Hoagie's website.  Apparently his score puts him in the top 0.03%. I guess I'm trying to figure out if this is information I need to do something with, or if I can just take these results and stick them in a drawer somewhere.  [/quote]

My kid has incredibly high IQ and ADHD.  The tester’s suggestion was to indulge his interests/passions but not really do much differently.[/quote]

Why was your child tested?  My two were tested because of learning disabilities.  [/quote]

I'm not sure if you're asking me (OP) or the PP.  I have a friend who is a neuropsychologist and she was looking for someone for a new staff member to practice on.  I had mentioned that I was curious about how he'd do so she offered.  I didn't come in with concerns, and they didn't find anything problematic.  Just lots of high scores.

I knew it would be higher than average going in.  That's why I was curious.  He's good at school.   He's a very busy kid who is always doing something.  But I had heard that profoundly gifted kids always struggle, and they need radically different things than their same age peers, and they are so much harder to parent than "typical" kids and since none of those things seem to apply to him, I sort of assumed he'd come in at the bottom of the gifted range.

But now, I'm worried that maybe he does need something different and I'm doing him a disservice?  [/quote]

We never tested for IQ, never realized how wildly off the chart our first child was until we had our second child 7 years later and second child started school.

First child always did well in any testing and in school and competitions. Child liked competitions of several kinds and wanted to do well in them. Initial local level and regional competitions child used to get the top prize without much effort. When going to state level, I used to tell that they need to put in effort to make it to the top which child wanted. It is ok not to aim for the top, but to get it they need to put in the effort. Spends very little effort and gets the top prize in all the 3 categories.

This has been the story for pretty much all this time. I tell that competition is at a different level in state and national level, and need more effort. Hardly puts in the effort, gets the top or close to the top.

Similarly child's school is supposed to be tough and the courses the child took were supposed to be some of the hardest at their school. Hardly puts more than 30 minutes and still ends up with A. I just gave up asking the child to put in effort.

Then seeing our second child who is pretty sharp but the difference is pretty big. When my first child took NNAT, CoGAT, etc. I thought everyone gets like a full score and left it at that. Same with teacher comments, grades, etc. Second child has to put in some effort and would not get the scores our first child did. That is when I started looking at other friends kids, how much effort they are putting in and what scores they are getting. We are used to getting glowing letters from almost every teacher for our first kid. We thought that is what teachers do for all kids. With our second child that notion was squashed. Our realization came at this point.

But I am really glad I did not know about it as I might have messed it up otherwise. We might have treated him differently even after trying not to. Child had normal childhood, lots of time with friends and family. If we had thought of him as really gifted and did "gifted" stuff, child would have been less social, more introverted, too academic, etc. Sure child would have won a few more "prizes" and probably would more likely be in better position college wise, but I would rather have a happy child.

Just sharing my experience.[/quote]

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