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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is she honestly ignoring you or just needs time to process the argument and decompress so she can have a rational conversation instead of an emotional one?.

After an argument, I can't sit there and rehash it for hours. I need some time to process and to think through things so I can approach it from a rational standpoint when we do discuss it. 
Sometimes that's 15 minutes later. Sometimes it's a few hours. Sometimes we have to wait until later that night when the kids go to bed. [/quote]

This is me too. We don't argue very frequently, but when we do fight it's about big things and he tends to turn ugly and mean. So yeah, I'm going to take all the time I need to figure out how I'm going to approach things. The other thing he does is want to sweep everything under the rug when he's "done", before we've had a chance to solve anything. So his approach is to literally ignore it despite being really mean sometimes. My approach is to go silent until I can figure out how to dive into the conversation constructively and not be mean back, and my silence also tells him I'm not over it, I'm not going to ignore it, and I'm still processing it. He's never wondering why I'm silent. I don't think this is immature at all, but I can see that it's not everyone's approach. [/quote]

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