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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you want his ex to be in your life forever
If you want to be restricted in where you can live and where you can move to
If you want to have child support as part of your budget (if not now, possibly later)
If you don't mind not having the focus-on-our-first-baby experience with him
If you're ok with having 100% custody if anything happens with the ex
If you really truly think he will be a full parent in terms of setting limits, doing boring tasks, and all the other annoying stuff, and not try to dump that on you
If you want your children to have the experience of a sibling who's only there part-time
Then definitely go for it
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I can't quite tell if this is sarcasm but I think it's worthwhile to consider these.

If you want his ex to be in your life forever
- This doesn't bother me much on the face of it. Not too much different than dealing with an unpleasant mother-in-law; unfortunate but not a dealbreaker. I am comfortable setting firm boundaries. But she is not a very mature or "together" person and seems potentially needy. I could see where situations would arise where he would feel the need to bail her out for whatever reason and that causing tension.

If you want to be restricted in where you can live and where you can move to
- This is huge. I really don't love where I live right now and do not like the idea of not being able to leave the area.

If you want to have child support as part of your budget (if not now, possibly later)
- This doesn't bother me when I think about it, but it's hard to say how I'd really feel if it was a reality.

If you don't mind not having the focus-on-our-first-baby experience with him
- Undecided if I want kids but I could definitely see unpleasant feelings and jealousy arising with this.

If you're ok with having 100% custody if anything happens with the ex
- Sure, if I'm going to do this it wouldn't make much of a difference whether it was 50% or 100%. I can even see benefits to him having sole custody. He has very involved parents close by that are happy to provide childcare so I'm not concerned about us being able to have kid-free time together.

If you really truly think he will be a full parent in terms of setting limits, doing boring tasks, and all the other annoying stuff, and not try to dump that on you
- I can't say for sure, but I really believe this would be true. He is extremely considerate of me and my boundaries.

If you want your children to have the experience of a sibling who's only there part-time
- I don't know much about what this experience is like for children so it's hard to say either way.

Then definitely go for it[/quote]

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