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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My pulled a similar stunt. She has always been bat sh&t crazy with money. My dad made a lot of money, but she always felt he didn't spend enough on her even with her entire part-time job salary being hers to spend. When he died and she started playing games with money including punish the one who is there for you most. She did not appreciate anything I did and when I started setting boundaries, the games with money went into full play. Once she involved the grandkids in her fiancial games I was out.

Detach, detach, detach! I would have her use her own money to hire a case manager, aides when needed and someone to manage her finances. I did the finance part because my brother and sister didn't want the job, but my sister is litigious and mildly paranoid so I knew if my mother didn't start making false accusations when dementia set in, my sister absolutely would.

She needs to see what it costs to hire people and deal with them. My mother is very cheap so she was livid having to pay (she has PLENTY of money) and didn't feel anyone was "worth it." She also had to deal with people dumping her.

I could then check on her and have a relationship with boundaries. I would not listen to her vent though because she was never able to give a sincere thank you for all I did. She was livid I would no longer be a free slave dealing with her mood swings.[/quote]

Sorry to be clear I had her hire someone for finances because then the person can deal with accusations and produce all paperwork. When people play games with money they also tend to be suspicious with money. No way was I going down the road of having people accuse me of taking money doing a job I didn't want that is time-consuming. A friend of mine went through that and after a lengthy ordeal with lawyers she proved she had not taken a cent even though she was entitled to pay herself for her services.[/quote]

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