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[quote=Anonymous]I only feel this fleetingly when I see a friend's husband doing something that I wish my DH did. I love my husband but like anyone, he has some personality quirks and challenges. The things I've been envious of in the past:

- A husband who truly takes on a fair share of cleaning and household management. My DH will do most things I ask, will push back against certain requests, and would be happy to let the house become unlivable if it meant he didn't have to do anything. I'm really on top of it, so it works out, but sometimes I see a husband who is like wiping down kitchen cabinets after cooking or just decides on his own that the deck needs to be cleaned up and figures it out and does it himself and I think about how nice that would be.

- A husband who spends more freely. My DH can be really cheap. This isn't related to actual finances -- DH and I are on the same page with that. But sometimes he's just really tight with money or unnecessarily frugal, largely because of how he was raised. Like on Mother's Day he was asking for input on a gift for his mom, and I suggested getting a couple nice hanging floral planters for her deck because she has liked that in the past, and he balked at getting two because they were $60 apiece. I had to roll my eyes. There's no issue in spending $120 on flowers for his mom, we can afford it no problem. But some part of him is like "well she should be happy with one." He's aware that this isn't his best quality and generally comes around, but it gets exhausting having to explain/justify a lot of relatively minor spending because his first response is "that's extravagant" even when it's like an extra $10 appetizer for the table.

But these are minor things in the grand scheme of things. I never actually wish I was married to someone else, just occasionally think "oh it would be nice if my husband had that specific quality or attitude about this specific thing. I can't think of any of my friends' husbands who I'd rather be married to than my own, despite his flaws.[/quote]

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