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[quote=Anonymous]Here is what I wish someone had told me when I was in your spot:

Your family circumstances are about to change big time, and your MIL is negotiating her new place in it. With her email, she is saying, "Here is the type of grandmother I intend to be." Like in any negotiating process, she is starting with her ideal situation: what she wants and then some. If you gloss this over or don't reply, she will have (in her mind) gotten all of her terms and a go-ahead from you that it's OK for her to act like this.

What you need to write is: "Bertha- I am glad you are so excited! It is important to me and Bill that our future child have loving and involved grandparents. (Although I certainly do hope that you are exaggerating when you say that nobody will be able to take as good care of the baby as you, since Bill and I plan on splitting involving many other family members, too! I wouldn't want you to be nervous.)

The little dress sounds darling but I would wait until we have more information before buying anything.

Thanks for sharing in our excitement. We will let you know when we have, and are ready to share, big news.

In due time,

Patrice[/quote]

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