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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I assume you’re talking really only about domestic adoption where birth parents would have any say, so my own experience as an international adoptive parent isn’t relevant, BUT I will say that I’m also an international, transracial adult adoptee and it is nice, for once, to not be a conspicuous family (some of my kids were adopted from the same country I was). [/quote]

Do you still feel conspicuous? After 20+ years, it is a non-issue that my child and I are different races. People may notice, but we are so used to it. Don’t feel “conspicuous“ at all.[/quote]

PP here. It’s funny because I didn’t feel conspicuous growing up at all- it wasn’t until I became an adult and the realization really hit me that we stand out as unusual.  I’m almost 50 and there are still times I feel it.

I’m not saying every transracial adoptee feels the same or will feel the same with any degree of certainty…but I do think it’s a different perspective as the parent (presumably white) vs a child of a different race. [/quote]

That’s very interesting!  I have a friend who is a transracial/transnational adoptee and she chose to adopt as well, but from foster care.  Her daughter is a different race from both my friend and my friend’s mother.  I remember my friend talking about how she had mixed feelings and the international adoption process (not her parents but the organization) which is why she wanted to adopt domestically for her own kids.[/quote]

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