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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP I am so sorry this happened. Are there other aspects of this place you've moved to that you enjoy and can see yourself appreciating for a long time?

Because this, like all things will pass.

[b]Some long term friendships only survive because they are arms-length, via email etc. and when confronted with the day to day they expire.[/b]

Its just what happens.

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This!!

I’m sorry this happened to you. I had a sort of similar situation with a very long term friend, although we didn’t move or anything.

When the friendship fell apart, my spouse was quick to point out that a lot of the reason the friendship survived as long as it did was because the distance really masked the many differences we had in how we approach life. The distance enabled us to simply focus on our commonalities and kept the friendship going longer than it should have in the first place. [/quote]

NP. This is a great insight, and this happened to me as well. Best friend from high school days, we kept in close touch over the years (10+) as our colleges and jobs took us to different cities, and even different countries. We used to talk on phone/email constantly. However, our lives were diverging in ways that we could ignore while long distance. The friend was living in the DC area and I moved here with my new spouse when I got accepted to law school. I was shocked at how fast our friendship fell apart, and I was even more shocked at how passive aggressive the friend was to me. The dealbreaker was when I couldn't attend the friend's wedding due to my law school final exams.

Years later, I understand it was jealousy, but it was also just two very different people beginning to go their separate ways. Although I was incredibly hurt, angry, and depressed about it for a long time, the acceptance that comes with getting older and appreciating what was has been awesome. Though I will probably never see the person again (he/she is not the kind of person to want talk about all of this) I can say that I loved this person, and I am grateful that he/she had been in my life during a long stretch of time when I needed someone. I wish the ending had been different, or hadn't happened at all, but I'm grateful to have had the friendship. [/quote]

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