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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Fwiw OP I had to step in and essentially do the exact same thing for my high anxiety with depression DC. With depression it is hard to do basic things like getting out of bed and brushing teeth never mind something massive like handle the transition to college. We got DC therapy and medication and I handheld DC through the forms and due dates. It is not that she is Unmotivated as you state it. It is that she is struggling with depression. She will struggle with it even if she is not in college next year and the fact that all her friends have move forward in their lives and she is left behind may not help the situation. Then the idea of reapplying, that sounds awful. If she says she wants to go, take her at her word, know that it will be a very very bumpy first year but listen to her and support her. You need to come at the situation with more empathy vs expectation of ‘she Should Be Doing This.’ DC’s sophomore year was Far better, more settled, more balanced, positive outlook, etc and they are so glad they stayed on track with our support.[/quote]

+10.  This is truly helpful.  Hoping your DC is doing better.  Yes, depression is casting a cloud over the whole process.  Seeking help and meds…[/quote]

+1.  I get it - they are worried and overwhelmed and you are worried and overwhelmed. You have to triage into what college forms have to be done else the impact is huge and not easily fixed.  They need to have some form of housing and the money has to be straight (financial aid, adding you as an authorized payee, waiving the insurance fee if you have adequate insurance for them).  We set a time to do this together - they would log in and either do it themselves with me there to ask questions or if they couldn’t find where/how, they would ask me to look at the site.

I had to take the lead on finding mental health professionals.  I think in this timeframe if there were other household tasking/or items with our other kids, I asked my spouse to take some of it on.  I also used sick time at work to bring my kid to appointments that addressed their mental health as I would if it was physical health.

Mid-summer/before school, looked into continuity of care, what mental health resources and office of disability services might my kid access at college and did they know what was available and how to access it. As a pp said, you have to take them at their word if they say they want to go and figure out how to support them.  [/quote]

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