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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP- you could substitute any type of activism here. I have a friend who is an activist for animal rights, it can come across the same way. If people want to have normal, adult friendships, they should use their emotional intelligence and be able to discuss other topics. 
Happy to support someone in their cause, but some people become their cause, and it can be difficult to spend time with them.[/quote]

Others jumped over this post but I get it. I understand completely what this person is saying.

My mom died of breast cancer when I was 22. Prior she battled the disease for 8 years - some periods she was doing pretty well and other times it was all utterly awful. She became so singularly focused on her health care, on her cancer friends from support group, on all the walks and fundraisers and the advocacy and I really did understand that for her that is what she needed to do to manage it all. But here is the thing, during it all I missed her desperately. If she wasn't able to talk "cancer" she barely could talk with me or my siblings about anything else. She was enmeshed with all things cancer and there was no room for anything or anyone else. And my family and I tried over and over to break through and connect with her but to no avail. I am 51 years old now and it still feels like we lost her years before she died.

All this to say, sometimes when someone becomes so focused on one area of their lives, no matter how critical and how integral to their core that area is, they do not leave room for anyone else.[/quote]

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