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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The issue is you. They’re incapable of being pleased and you’re a people pleaser. That’s a bad combo. You’re so caught up in managing their feelings. The only person you can change here is you. So stop being a people pleaser and feelings manager. Focus instead on just acknowledging their feelings and moving on: “So you’re feeling hurt that we’re planning to stay here for Thanksgiving. You’re disappointed. I get that. Maybe we can match up our schedules next time.” And stop bean counting. You’re using terms like “credit” in relation to visits. Just stop. It’s not a good look. [/quote] I think OP is saying the in laws are the bean counters but selective about which beans they are counting. But agree, bean counting with family is pretty much never a good approach. [/quote]
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