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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No, and you shouldn't need them to help you move. You're two adults. Act like it - hire movers like normal people. You can't ask people for help but then say "Oh, but you can't stay here" - are they supposed to help you move but also pay for the gas to travel to you AND three meals a day?  It shouldn't cost THEM money to help you move. Tell them to come visit you in the new house a week or month after you've moved and just hire movers for half a day.[/quote]

Family helps family. Some families don’t outsource everything. [/quote]

OP IS HIRING MOVERS. It sounds like they aren't "helping," they are wanting to feel involved and feel busy. Which OP can let them do, as a kindness, as long as they are willing to stay in a hotel (that OP should pay for).

Do you people not understand that old folks sometimes want to feel needed/wanted/helpful/involved, even when they aren't actually needed? It's a kindness to include them, and to give them projects, but that shouldn't compromise anyone's peace of mind.[/quote]

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