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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I almost never socialize with people except when we hang out with other families. It’s May and I’ve had one solo coffee date with a friend so far in 2023, and then went to one book club with people I didn’t know (an effort to try and socialize more).

The problem is that I feel like I don’t have solo friends anymore. I have family friends. It is a real point of frustration for me— I feel quite lonely even though I’m almost never alone. Also burned out because while it’s nice to spend time with other families, I really need some time away from my kid so my brain can remember what it is like to not be at least half focused on her at all times.

Hosting dinner parties doesn’t feel like a solution for me because then I’m still home with my family, plus added stress of hosting. I really need more chances to just be out on my own. DH and I almost never go on dates, either.[/quote]

+1 to all of this.  My team at work has shifted permanently to nearly 100% WFH, so I don’t even have that little bit of socialization anymore.  
We’ve also struggled to find a reliable babysitter and have no local family, so that doesn’t help the situation, either.[/quote]

PP here and same. We hired sitters periodically when DD was younger because she’d go to sleep by 7:30 or so and we could tuck her in before we left. Now she stays up later and is so attached to our bedtime routine, and to me being there for it. If DH isn’t there for bedtime she’s fine, if I’m not there she sometimes freaks out. It makes it so much harder to get out.

DH works in person and gets some adult interaction that way. I’m 100% remote plus do a lot more of the pick up/drop off and activities duty as a result, and I feel so drained and Kid-focused, especially since Covid.

Sometimes I’ll reach out to a friend to get together and they ALWAYS suggest getting together with the kids or kids+husbands. I know their time is short, too, so I get it. But I just really wish I got out more regularly on my own, at least once or twice a month. I just feel like my whole identity is “mom” and even when I make an effort to break out of that, it doesn’t seem to work.[/quote]

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