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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm with you, OP. BUT.....

I have a feeling I will be emotional when we drop him off in a few months, and I still have a younger at home.

I'm pretty sure I'll be more emotional when the younger one leaves, though.

Mentally, though, I can't wait to be independent again and travel the way I used to, sans kids.[/quote]

I was fine when I dropped my youngest at college, until they had a full on meltdown.  They normally are not overly emotional and do not do that, not even as a toddler.  I knew they were nervous---college 3K miles away, knowing nobody, etc.  But I was not prepared for the full meltdown less than an hour before needing to drop them at their dorm for first "hall meeting" and dorm activities.  It was one of the hardest things I have ever had to do---calm them down, use a mediation app, remind them of why they love this school and picked it as it was their 2nd choice and had always liked it.  I knew I had to get them to the dorm on time for freshman activities.  Reminded them that everyone is in the same situation and does not know many people or none at all so just go have fun, throw yourself into activities and getting to know people and reminded them they will find their group.  Leaving them the next day was hard, as I had to remain calm and unemotional and be their "rock", I knew I had to be the strong one with the knowledge that if they really hated it we could re-evaluate at Xmas.

Btw, by end of xmas break, my kid wanted the "earlier in the day flights so they get back to school sooner rather than at 11pm the night before classes" and then I knew they had found their group and will be just fine.  [/quote]

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