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OP - If you are out of the area, then hopefully you have engaged an aide from a reputable local agency AND that you have gotten your Dad to sign off on any form needed so that you can confer with the agency and your dad's PCP to be able to keep informed of his health and also to share information on it.  You could go one step further if you wanted support and/or to separate yourself a bit from the oversight by seeing if there is a local geriatric care manager type person - with the agency or a separate person.  You are doing all you can in getting your dad's care set up to give home "a trial run," but you also are wise to look at what the other options on care are for your dad.  It sounds like your mother is not working with quite a full deck, so again having an agency on board, may well be wise in the future to figure out what supports she needs.

While you are there and your dad is able to think clearly and make decisions for himself, have you been able to see if he (and your mother) have the necessary legal documents in place and to get an idea of what they can afford in terms of possibly needing care for two.  At this point it is time to clearly state that you just want to be sure the plans are there for both of them.[/quote]

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