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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t feel hatred toward my sibling in this situation but a lot of anxiety about what is going to happen when my parents are no longer around to fund her lifestyle.

My parents are constantly shelling out money (most recently to cover the mortgage she couldn’t pay). Meanwhile she has a new car and her kids have brand new clothes, video games, etc. I have no clue what she’s going to do when they pass and there is no more money. It stresses me out. [/quote]

My cousin is in her early 50s. She does this with friends, too. I'm the only person who tells her "no." And she sometimes cuts me off and out of her life. She's really like a toddler who throws tantrums. Plenty of other adults will support it. I'm amazed sometimes. It takes a willingness to be completely dependent and at the mercy of other people. For example, she flew from LA to Atlanta, GA recently, and she called my sister's husbands sister, Alice, who lives there, to pick her up at the airport and drive her around. I honestly don't know if she's spoken to Alice since my sister's wedding in 1996. But guess what? Alice picked her up at the airport.

Me? I will pay around $200 for a rental car. I've always had better and more stable education and work history than her. I have more independence than her.

Some people would call her a moocher. She's just okay with having to depend on other people. What do these other people get out of it? Well, I guess they like taking care of someone else. She acts like she's a good listener. She's not really listening if you watch her. She's looking at the split ends of her hair, and she's playing with her hair the whole time someone else is talking.

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