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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you have a job? If yes, why don’t you each pitch in each month to pay the bills and spend the rest as you see fit. If not, I am sorry but either you suffer in silence or try to persuade your DH to not give the money (I don’t think you will succeed).[/quote] What the what? I don't understand this post at all. Are you suggesting that OP and her DH should take on the burden of the MIL's bills as well as their own? An additional $3000 a month just in rent? When OP and DH need to save for their own retirement and their own kids' education? And no, no suffering in silence. This is not a "DH gets to decide" issue. OP and DH are a unit and the money they have coming in should be spent on what they jointly decide to spend it on. OP should absolutely have a discussion with DH, but it's not about persuading him, it's about coming to a joint decision on what's right for their family. OP, what I don't understand is your DH's relationship with his siblings. Are they so distant that they haven't been telling him about how much money they've been giving your MIL? I hope their position is not "now it's our brother's turn" and that causes a family rift, but if it comes to that, so be it, because these discussions should have been happening a decade ago. Your DH isn't obligated to step up to the plate because his siblings were financially enabling their mom to live far beyond her means for a decade.[/quote]
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