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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The most important thing is for you and your husband to come to a common understanding about what you are prepared to do, and what you are not.

This is the kind of thing that can put a lot of pressure on, or even destroy, a marriage.[/quote]

Do NOT make this about the $10k. That's the tip of the iceberg. You need to decide as a couple, NOW, what your limits/plans are here. So - if you give her the $10k and tell her to lower her spending, what do you do when she comes back next month/year and asks for another $10k? Is it just a flat no? What about when it's, "send me $10k or I'm about to be evicted?" Or when she's had a serious health issue and can't live independently and has no money?

There's a lot of ways to do this (annual limit, the $10k and then nothing else until she's infirm, a certain dollar figure per month direct to key bills, 30% of appropriate housing for her only, requiring specific changes like she sells the car and you'll buy her a cheap used car and give her $5k, there's a ton of options) but what you DON'T want to do is set your marriage up to fight about this every time she asks for money for the next 15 years. [/quote]

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