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[quote=Anonymous]I also agree with others that it is a balance, you don't have to never say she looks beautiful but generally staying away from body talk about her, yourself, and others will go a long way. The point about not talking about others is really important. My mother never woudl have said anything about me, but she and extended family members would sometimes make comments about others - sometimes it was even positive "oh she's lost so much weight and is looking great!" But all of that is telling your kid your values and your judgement. Later when I gained some weight after college after a trauma, I could imagine what my mom might think from very small comments made about others. Even positive body comments about others are often weighted. So just really consider how you speak about others because kids listen and they learn your values through that. It is usually better to have the family guideline be no body talk.

being more neutral about your body is actually a much better place to be in my opinion. This is a place where you don't think about your body much - it is your body and it helps you get places and do all sorts of things for you but it is not something you are very focused on in day to day life, neither positively or negatively. If you're too into your body in a positive regard it is still taking up mental space and can be more of a focus keeping it the way it is that you feel so "positive" about it now. Just let it be her body and others be their body - we don't worry about them too much. [/quote]

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